View Boomers, empty nesters, and parents have re-invented themselves over the years with birthing new experiences. A room shifts. Life changes whether chosen or delivered. How do you set your unknown for beauty and support?
Who would you invite to celebrate and grieve with as you enter a new room of your life? What would you try to comfort yourself? The key that you forget is simply to start something when you feel the inner urge. Start. You get to change your mind and come back home.
A client shared with me on the telephone that she feels cluttered with rapid thoughts. She wants to dump her old stuff and clear out the nagging thoughts of needing to have answers.
Practically she went room by room and gathered stuff no longer beautiful to her for a garage sale. She had no one to help her and still she went for it. What she discovered were new friends in her neighborhood and cash of three hundred dollars in a weekend.
She used the money for a spa day which was SO NEW for her. She is frugal and practical.
She even took a photo of herself as we talked about, so she would have a reminder of treating herself well with little effort.
For a weekend, she never cooked, answered the phone, and one day she didn’t shower. All new for her. She wept in bed with all that hasn’t come into her life. She watched movies and ate pasta in bed. She wept. She wept.
She couldn’t write a thing about her feelings or thoughts.
She did ask before she fell to sleep to REMEMBER A DREAM I WILL REMEMBER A DREAM.
She jotted memories of the dream. She was doing a job, teaching, when she thought she would be doing the job of singing. What she felt the dream was telling her was that she needed new teachings to stimulate her life and she needed to just sing when times were sorrowful. She won’t get what she wants and still will have a great life. She looked at who inside her wanted want in terms of the young girl, the old woman, and the present woman. It is her dream. Her interpretation.
This new dream journal made her hopeful. She doodled dreams. After months, we chatted weekly and she decided not to turn this newness into a “career” or product, but to simply keep going and see what she feels and thinks.
We are programmed to do something, fix, be productive, rush and get an answer.
For her, she needed to flow. Her life has been so active, productive, and giving. Now she enters her inner world and spontaneously chooses her plans.
May you discover some tool that supports you and allow the unknown to be a new friend.
Natalie
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Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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