with Natalie caine

July 15, 2011 | by Natalie Caine | No Comments

She couldn’t see around the corner since her divorce.  Love lost? Not exactly.  No regrets. Love no longer moving forward hand in hand.

Summer and the living doesn’t feel easy.  Financial shifts and singlehood aren’t carefree days when you are grieving the life you thought you would have and uncertain about love tomorrow.

1. Full on permission to weep.  Who wouldn’t when change unexpectedly lands in your bedroom? Buy the softest aloe Kleenex you can purchase.
2. Treat yourself as well as you would treat your friend going through divorce.
3. Ask for help.  One woman set up an email with her friend that simply said, “I LOVE YOU. GET OUTSIDE TODAY.” Support goes a long way.
4. Make a plan on your calendar to do something for yourself on the weekend.
What use to bring you joy?
5.  No spinning like a hamster. Jump off the wheel.  Sometimes in life you are in the mystery even though you want answers.
6. Practice present moment by feeling your feet on the floor and seeing what is right in front of you…the window, the object on the bookcase. 
7. Remind yourself this loss and pain won’t last forever. 
8. Take little steps forward for creativity that will lift your spirits.
Would that be a class, the arts, hiking group, bowling, city tours?
9. Say at bedtime what you appreciate about yourself. 
10. If you have trouble sleeping, buy a meditation tape for relaxation and healing.

Transitions are an invitation to go within and learn more about who you are, who you aren’t, and what new resources are needed at this stage of your life.

Take very good care with gentleness to self.
Natalie

Natalie Caine M.A.
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