Parents are supposed to have the answers. I remember a child sharing that with me. He said, “Well they are adults and adults got it together.”
Being an adult and human, doesn’t seem to connect when needed. Each of you has a part that needs nurturing and wisdom.
You go blank or you go on the spin of what if. What might be below the uncertainty is, vulnerability. Not knowing what to do or to choose, feels uncomfortable.
Look over to a wise part of you and ask, “What would be helpful today for me?” “What would be helpful today for me?” Ask more than once… Pause and see or hear or feel what pops. LET IT GO.
That is what a woman shared. She wept. It seemed so common and easy on the advice level and she wanted something more solid.
She shared more and we added, “Has it worked for you to not let go?” “Have you visited these same thoughts for too long?” “Does it keep you from being more of who you want to be?”
Each of us wrote those questions for ourselves, as did she. We all wrote, LET IT GO. During the week, the practice was to write for ten minutes:
1. I let go of…… (for her, being critical of myself from that event…I did what I could and I made mistakes)
2. I add what I appreciate about myself (for her, it was, being a listener)
3. I choose to….this week (for her, it was going to the gym)
Taking some self-exploration time is the deeper work you long to experience. Sometimes you want a hand to hold. Reach and be met right there.
Take good care,
Natalie
“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.”
― Eckhart Tolle
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