A woman shared with me that she was ready for a re-invention.
She is competitive and wanted to be top in her new adventure. We met the other part of her, as you know I talk about the orchestra of selves that live within you and want to be heard. She met the one who is ok with being ordinary. We had a great time dialoguing with these opposites.
Bottom line is she began small and checked in daily with the part of her that wanted to be top in her new adventure and the one who thinks ordinary is good enough. She made a chart showing a week that reminded her to check in daily with both sides of her inner self. She needed the accountability to stay on track with new behavior.
Today she is relieved to have spent time with the ordinary self and appreciate the go getter high achiever. She got to know more about who she is and isn’t.
Then she developed new skills to include the learning.
Frustration of course set in and lack of confidence because she was pulling up a part of herself that went dormant from decades ago. When she was younger, playing for the fun of playing was enough.
When she put on her adult hat, she forgot about the playful little one within her. Playing and ordinary days became friends. Not accomplishing anything was so uncomfortable for her …big pusher energy had quieted the playful one.
A tray of sand with a bamboo stick was the practice I suggested for her in order to simply play daily at home.
What new part of you wants to come out and possibly feed an undiscovered passion?
Natalie Caine M.A.
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