You like predictability and a path. You got a call that stopped the familiar. After talking about the sudden change over and over, a good thing for you, you wept.
Part of your talking with your friends was a way of feeling that anyone would be upset with that news.
You wanted to feel part of “normalcy” and not a misfit. When your vulnerability gets launched without your own ignition, you go on tilt. Who wouldn’t?
When this woman and I spoke on the phone, I asked if she wanted to have a deeper conversation.
Initially of course, she shared what she felt and feared and we began right where she needed to be. Sometimes, you long for a deeper conversation about your life and you don’t know how to begin.
Part of what she bravely unfolded was that she feared being invisible if she weren’t always on and happy. She didn’t think anyone would invite her over or be her “best friend.”
Growing is a life journey and you forget that fact. You get stuck in the I AM AN ADULT NOW and should be all I am by now.
Tears fall for not being “done yet,” with growing. You want life to be peaceful and happy.
When I mentioned that to her, she was surprised to hear within herself, “that is only for monks.” “Well, may I speak with the monk inside you,” I asked. Just that thought opened her to more tears and a letting go feeling.
You simply begin something and a door opens right there. You can unfold your new road and take a turn that you didn’t think you ever would take.
So what would be outside the box experience for you? What turn would be surprise you welcome?
Take care,
Natalie
Natalie Caine M.A.
Empty Nest Support Services
Life In Transition, What’s Next?
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