I am asked that question over and over. I know they can. I know I can. I have my history to remind me. You have yours if you make time to sit with you or walk with you and remember times you shifted.
It is helpful to discover what your motivation is for the change. Is it fatigue, boredom, clock is ticking, loneliness, lack of meaning, hurting others, etc.?
What I also notice is it takes time for people to ask for help AND people over think, rather than BEGINNING. Some tell themselves they can figure it out themselves, they don’t want to spend the time or money or they have a bad track record and have lost motivation. Your head is spinning you in the unhealthy cycle. Jump off that track that hasn’t been working for you and BEGIN a new direction of behaviors.
I could tell you stories of how people begin, how they stopped over thinking and spinning, how they make better decisions now, how they listen more and PAUSE in life, how they feel lighter and giggle more. I love story telling. I will share those another time. For now, here are a few ideas to ponder:
• What are you telling yourself daily that may be fantasy vs. reality?
• Who do you want to help you?
• What do you need to begin?
• What’s the worst thing that could happen and what’s the best?
• Do you see yourself as resilient, one who falls and stands tall over and over? Why yes? Why no?
• Who are you jealous of today? Who might be jealous of you? How can that shift your perception about making a small change?
• What do you adore about yourself?
We all have our stories. Who is ready to write a new chapter? Who wants a hand to hold as they begin? Ask someone for help, your sibling, friend, therapist, clergy, partner, co -worker. Pick someone you know who is trustworthy. Pick someone who is good at motivating and accountability. BEGIN.
My clients want to make me monogrammed towels that say BEGIN…. Yes, it is one of my favorite actions.
Let me know how you are doing. It is actually fun to BEGIN and learn more about who you are and who you are not. Then, you get to gather new inner and outer resources to yes, BEGIN…. OK, you can send me a monogrammed towel…
Take care,
Natalie
Natalie Caine M.A.
Life In Transition, What’s Next?
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