I am tired of being told to get over my missing my children. It has been four days since I dropped them off at the airport. Why can’t I just say to all of them, STOP IT. I think that will be my journal entry for my back to school paper or that paper you write called, WHAT DID YOU DO THIS SUMMER. I will say, I finally said, STOP IT.
Really it is time for me to grow up even more by saying what I need to say. I seem to collapse when criticized. I get quiet. I remember reading if I want to cry I get to cry. That wasn’t ok when I was a child. I am an adult now and I cry even if that makes other people uncomfortable.
I am more than a mom but right now I miss those kids talking in their rooms and yelling, What’s For Dinner, Mom?” I just don’t like the feeling of not knowing how they are . I am mom.
Wouldn’t it be great if someone would say, Ya I cry too. Ya, you must be sad after all those days and nights in your life of being mom. Ya, I don’t know what that is like to not have my kids around since they are still in high school, but I don’t want to think about it yet or I will cry.
There are so many caring things they could say.
It is not as if I was a cry baby with my family or friends. I just cry now. I don’t want to think about what I have to do or will do in a month that might be different. I just want to miss them for a little while. Who knows, I might like the emptiness of not having to do something with them or for them.
So to you who hate when I cry, I say, STOP IT. Stop trying to push my feelings down because you aren’t feeling it.
Are you guys being told to stop it?
Thanks,
Stop It Mom
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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