My family is answering new calls. I am ready to let go. Ready and don’t like it. My kids are adults. I feel at times like the left overs. I do understand the past isn’t the present traditions.
They love me that I know. Their story doesn’t matter. For me, I am solo and made new plans this year. My kids have to do what they have to do with new relationships and I have to celebrate life in memories of them and phone call voices and new ideas.
Here is my plan this year. Chat with each child when we can on Thanksgiving. Serve at a soup kitchen downtown in the day. Evening, eat with a friend next door and share stories. Movie the next day.
When it is written it doesn’t sound like much of a celebration. It is for me. I am free. I am safe. I am independent, healthy, and proud of the life I have lived. I don’t fit the Hallmark image. Finally I fit my own image. I am a baker for fun and that shines during this season. I give it away because my fun is in the cooking and knocking on the door.
I wish there were more stories on TV of people changing holiday traditions as they live longer and accept families connect when they can.
I am grateful I make my happiness and health by waving away the negativity and applauding the good I have.
Meranda
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
You are an amazing lady. I am married with two adult children (if that sounds right). My son will be married on July 28, 2012. My daughter has a boyfriend and spends ALL her time with him. While I know this is the way life goes, and I am very happy for them, I can’t help but feel sad for myself. It has always been the three of us even though I am married. My marriage is ok, I wouldn’t say the best though. So with my two on their way out the door, I feel like I am all alone. Hubby and I do things together and don’t get me wrong, we do get along well, but I feel I am losing my very best friends. My son will be 30 mins away and my daughter ~ well who knows yet. You on the other hand, seem to have it all together and I envy you for that. Maybe when the time comes for me, I will be stronger. Thx for listening! Nancy