with Natalie caine

January 15, 2009 | by Natalie Caine | No Comments

The election is over and the inauguration is around the corner.  Big changes, hopes, and celebrations are being planned.

It got me thinking in a different way about saying good bye to the roles we have been playing and hello to new parts of ourselves.

Let’s partner with ourselves.  Let’s remember to be the kind of role model to ourselves that we have been to our children and family.

What do you need?  What do you appreciate about how you have lived your life?  What dream do you have over and over but just don’t have the support to step towards? Where is your community? What one habit do you want to course correct?  For me, it is not starting my day by checking emails. I am going to go back to bundling up if I have to and drinking my morning coffee outside, one big black cup in a yellow pottery mug that looks more like a tall soup bowl.  I don’t like sugar or cream.   I will be having that morning ritual by myself, just like I use to before I got over productive:  Partnering with me: Quiet with me: Holding my hand: Chatting with myself about my thoughts and feelings in that moment: Treating myself well: Getting my sillies out. Do any of you remember that song, shake your sillies out, or something like that?

When empty nesters ask me about something I learned that surprised me, it is that I still practice focusing on me and not enduring a situation past my resentment level.  Checking in daily helps me not build up gummy residue. “Hey, Natalie, what’s up? What are you thinking about?  Are feelings in there rising up right now? Disappointed about anything?   Are you happy about anything?”  I can’t always make a plan about what arises but I feel better simply naming it to myself.  When I get irritable, it is my sign that I am over doing and have endured the situation for too long.  I need to stop. I need to nurture myself.

I suggest you make a list of how you will partner with yourself this month. Start to make that a new habit.

Take good care,
Natalie
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