Summer is playful and dreading because back to school is around the corner. A mother shared with me that she knows change is coming but her brain doesn’t know how to have fun NOW with the family. Brain chatter chills her. Loss, again, brings her down and out of the moment. Her heart aches for the forever myth in movies and story books. She isn’t ready to give it up. I love when she said these real feeling words. I DON’T WANT TO GIVE UP HAVING ALL THAT I WANT. I FEEL LOST
Good news is change, emptiness, makes room for parts of you that had to go dormant. I found my inner photographer where I share my new passion in my blog photos and my photos with my friends, family, and professionals. My house finally has framed photos that make me smile.
If you had told me a year ago that I would wake and grab my digital to catch a surprise in the morning, 6:oo am, before sipping coffee, I wouldn’t have known that. Not knowing is the good news.
Uncomfortable for the part of you that feels like you need to know how to be a parent, partner, friend, sibling, son/daughter, leader, job seeker, re-locator, etc. Is it realistic to think life would be happier if you just knew what you wanted?
Why don’t we celebrate the unknown and change? Do you wish we had been exposed while growing up to stories and teachings about awkwardness being normal behavior?
Change is for sure awkward. Not knowing feeds the celebration of mystery, surrender, and surprise. PRESENT MOMENT is a coping skill for the unknown. We get to change our mind as adults and that reminder propels choices.
You probably have many thoughts about being exposed to awkwardness and the unknown earlier in life. Maybe you could post comments here to share why we don’t celebrate the unknown and changes?
Wishing you compassion and possibility of celebrating the mystery of not knowing -yet,
Natalie
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natalie@emptynestsupport.com
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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