When parents and Boomers are in transition what they want is someone to point out what they can’t see that would help them. Do they ask for that kind of help? Not always. They don’t trust the feedback because they fear it is wrapped in someone just being nice, or being unaware that they are really talking about themselves, or they don’t have anyone to ask. All scenarios are real and challenging.
What to do?
A woman shared with me she is ready for feedback. Her friends don’t really sit on the same bench nor do they get this life change she is walking. She decided to search websites and start fresh with feedback. She used an anonymous name at first and told her story. Now, she is getting suggestions that make sense to her.
Another went to a one day workshop and asked for the help. She left with new practices and hope.
Who will see it for you when the veil is over your eyes for whatever reason? Are you letting people know you can handle the truth and will simply listen as they speak unless they are being hurtful and attacking?
I can’t remember a time in my life that I didn’t need someone else’s eyes when I was going through a happy or challenging change. Sure, I check in and feel what I feel and express it and still when they see what they see for me, it often confirms my outcome of choices that I had been visiting or they pop up a view I never saw.
What little step might you take to get support?
Take care,
Natalie
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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