with Natalie caine

May 31, 2011 | by Natalie Caine | No Comments

Katie called in tears about graduation.  “How can I have a fun summer when all I do is drop these tears of goodbye?”

We know goodbyes are part of life but that doesn’t help the heart.  Hearts weep.  What can you do?

1. Let yourself cry whenever and wherever using the softest aloe Kleenex you can find.
2. Who wouldn’t cry when their roles are changing, unknown is ahead, and you are grieving for what was?
3. Make time to get nurtured.  You decide what nurturing is for you and put it on the calendar.
4. Ask for help.  No one wants to go through transitions alone.  You would be there for someone. So make the call for you.
5. Check in with yourself daily, asking, “What am I feeling?  What do I need today?  Who can help me?”
6. Enjoy the moments and have that be good enough.
7. Trust that this sorrow won’t last forever. You have been through challenges before.
8. Get into beauty, outside.  Let nature uplift you.
9. Know who you are and aren’t. For now, honor that.
10. Play music at home and in the car.
11. Write yourself a letter about what compliments people have said to you over the years.
12. If you have tried different ways to shift and that isn’t working, seek guidance.  No need to suffer alone.
13. Make a plan to connect and get out of the house twice a week.  Write a plan on your calendar so you will have choices.
14. No matter what, be kind to yourself.

Change is an invitation to be where you are and at the same time go within to hear whispers of what might be ahead.  You don’t have to sit and meditate for hours.  Walk and be present with yourself.  Asking, WHAT DO I NEED?  Keep asking over and over each day.   Let it be.  Clarity will come when you stay connected with yourself by checking in on what you need.

“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.” ~ Alan Cohen

Take good care,
Natalie

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