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How to Get In Trouble

December 19, 2011 | by Natalie Caine | One Comment

Woman_Calling.jpgIf you don’t call on the holidays, you don’t get the love.

A mom shared with me that she makes too many excuses for her kids not calling during the holidays. 

They are busy.  They are kids who of course forget. 

Do you make excuses for your kids during the holidays?  One year she called them so she wouldn’t be resentful.  Now she wants to let that go.  Her decision was, if they don’t call, I will not extend this year. 

Does the age of the kids matter?   Her children are in their late twenties and won’t be home for the holidays. 

Are you curious to see what really happens with mother not chatting with her kids?

What would you do or what have you done?

Happy celebrations,
Natalie

Natalie Caine M.A.
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One Response

  1. momshieb.wordpress.com says:

    Hi, Natalie
    This sounds like one of those situations where we trap ourselves into feeling hurt. “If he calls, I’ll be happy because it means he loves me. If he doesn’t call, it must be that he doesn’t love me.”
    Yuck!
    This Mom called her kids, not because she loves them and wanted to hear their voices, but as a way of protecting herself from being hurt.
    I try (but don’t always succeed!) to just call my three young adult kids when I miss them so that I can just be responsible for my own happiness.
    I think if we want the kids to call us, or reach out in other ways, we have to tell them that. And we have to trust that they love us without setting up little “tests” for them.

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