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March 15, 2012 | by Natalie Caine | No Comments

One of the top reasons people don’t move on a dream I hear from clients and during workshops is, “I can’t really do this alone.  I get started and do well for about two weeks and then, if things aren’t going well, I collapse.”

1. Love
2. Re-invention
3. Healthy choices
4. Spiritual practices
5. Forgiving
6. New friends
7. Creativity
8. De-clutter
9. Moving
10. Talking less and listening more
11. Valuing yourself
12. Getting a reality check on finances
13. Entertainment time
14. Working more effectively
15. Reading

The list above, of wants people have, is a lifelong add-on.
Dreams can get dropped because we stop too soon and we don’t have trusting support.

PEOPLE DONT ALLOW THEMSELVES TO RECEIVE SUPPORT.  SUPPORT VALIDATES AND INSPIRES.   ASK FOR HELP.   Focus for a week on asking for help.   Who could you call?  Who wants you to be happy?  Who is focused and open?
What support can you discover professionally from others?  Who have you supported? 

Write down daily, who you can ask for help. JUST DO IT.  You would answer a need for someone else if they called.  Fear of being wrong or embarrassed underlies a concern that the person you are sharing with won’t hold the information in CONFIDENCE.  Let them know you want to keep this private between the two of you. 

When you know what stops you from moving forward, you can course correct. 

 Melanie told me she just doesn’t have the time.  When your want is happiness verses dullness, maybe you can find the time.

 Annie shared with me that she feels unattractive these days.  The help she decided to receive was going by herself to a top department store for a free make up session. 

 Leslie made a list of five people she would run her idea by for re-invention, asking for connections and feedback with her presentation. 

 Mike didn’t want dating sites online.  He chose to go early for coffee, out of the house and start up a conversation. 

 Miranda wanted to lose weight and move forward with her health.  She made a list of two healthy recipes and cooked ahead with those ingredients.  

 Kelly wanted to begin a real spiritual journey.  She walked in nature. She practiced ten minutes of eyes closed, seated, and breathing. 

 Todd decided to make a daily check sheet of his happiness. His hope was to discover what brings it down and what lifts it.   

These brave people allowed me to share their first names with you in the hopes of making it real that all of us have dreams and need help.

As you have read in my blogs before, my two lifetime friends are COMPASSION AND CURIOSITY.  Change needs a friend.  You have an orchestra of voices inside you. You can decide who needs volume up and volume down.  It is fun to practice something new.  Call someone.

Take good care,
Natalie

Natalie Caine M.A.
Empty Nest Support Services
Life In Transition, What’s Next?
(800) 446-3310 or (818) 763-0188
Los Angeles

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