My friend is attached to her phone waiting for that happy call from her daughter, “Mom, get here. Baby is on the way.” First time grandmother is feeling life couldn’t be any happier for her entire family. She adores her daughter and son in law. She is canceling what she can to be available for this initiation of new life.
In the past, grandmother to be, traveled challenges and learned she wanted to be where she wanted to be and with the people whom she loves dearly. She laughed telling me that right now is the only good news of being beyond the age of 60. She is wiser and not looking at herself as much in the mirror for how do I look but more for how ya doin today?
What we talked about in the midst of laughing and presents and wonderment was the question, “How can you be a CONSCIOUS GRANDMOTHER?” She has worked on herself love and growth for years and now has an opportunity to practice the learnings, again.
No perfection and no unrealistic expectations, are two of her top reminders. She will be sharing her daughter and grandchild and that isn’t easy for her since she wants to be THE GRANDMOTHER.
Adolescent behavior visits uninvited. Possession and inflation. “No one could be as great a mother or grandmother than she. No one deserves the time more than me for the challenges I went through raising my not easy child.”
Laughter bounced through the room at how we want what we want. She journals for sanity and power walks. She knows she will over step her place. Thank goodness for compassion and I am sorry.
Her longing is simply to have time with her daughter and granddaughter. Spoiling will be easy. Hugging goodbye will be painful.
What are your tips for first time grandparents?
Happy Summer,
Natalie
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