by Allison | submitted on November 16, 2006
Yes, my daughter is coming home for the holidays, but we aren’t the same. As the college years have moved up, she has lessened her emails and calls with me.
I know she loves me and yet I thought when you love someone you want to talk and share. I just don’t get it, but my real concern is our holidays will be tense. I don’t want to react to her connecting less with me.
It is so hard when there is no prescription of how to relate in these changes. Sure, I have asked her what’s up and what she needs, but she just says, “I am busy, mom. Nothing is wrong.”
I wonder if other parents are concerned about the holidays not going so well because our kids are more independent or what ever they are these days.
I think even if I know how to care for myself and let her be, I am just sad that it isn’t easy loving her these days. She is healthy and she has no problems except what all college kids have in discovering themselves.
Have any of you ever gone through these distances and discovered what the heck it was all about?
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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