by Nancy | July 8, 2008
Not only is my son leaving in September for college, but I just lost my job.
I am a good person. I thought bad things don’t happen to really good people.
So what are the rules for getting through so much loss at one time? I like rules because they challenge me and give me a straight direction.
New expenses and loneliness, not to mention the “anxiety” word because I don’t want to take medication.
I am a believer that when one door opens another can open, but frankly, I don’t have the strength to even reach for the door knob.
Proud of my son and all the details have actually been fun and focused for me. He is rarely home this summer or even all this year. So, I have had some practice with the change in our relationship.
Now I am on the job hunt, but more like on the crawl.
Good to talk with you,
Nancy
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
Oh my gosh, finally someone in a similar situation. I too lost my job, after 30 years of loyalty, less than two months later my one and only child was married, then to top that my adorable Shih Tzu dies a couple of weeks later.
At first I tried so hard to stay positive, telling myself that all three things were due to happen (my son was 24 & my dog was 14), but being laid off 2 years before my retirement just threw me.
I think I would be okay if I had a little support from my husband, but I think he is thinking only of the financial aspect, I clearly recall joking once that I was his cash cow (over our 32 yr marriage I usually made more than he did). So
every day seems to get worse, I just don’t know what to do, oh yes I apply for jobs because heaven forbid my unemployment checks stop coming in for him, I mean us.
So, what do you do all day? I can’t believe how bored I am and that I find myself, sometimes, on the computer for hours if not the whole day!
Well, take care and I hope I didn’t bring you down to much, but for me your story helped by knowing there are others out there with different stories.
Thank you for sharing,
Susan