Dan knows his son is leaving. He just got the acceptance to the college of his choice.
He knows all
the right things to think and say, but he is feeling the pain.
We chatted on the phone and here are three
things that we came up with to help his transition:
Do fathers and sons kick off by going camping?
Write your son a letter of the good times you have had and what you adore about him. Sprinkle in
some wishes for his bright future!
Put it on the calendar that you will plan a bowling night with your
buddies. Plan ahead for support and fun.
Be gentle with yourself. You have never been in this place
and change is uncomfortable.
Keep practicing being present with yourself and your son. Leaping
ahead loses the precious moments of hearing and seeing your child with joy when he walks in the
room.
Remind yourself he is into his friends and that doesn
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
Wow that was a fantastic reminder for me. I printed it and left it on my son’s bed. Thank you for slowing me down and remembering fatherhood.
real recent nester’s we dont connect anymore,like living with a freind instead of my wife—we dont touch kiss-hug you name it or rather she does”nt—-talking is important she wont—I recently was disable’d after working my ass off my whole life–getting on SSDI
is a real struggle–have been able to work for nearly three year’s on top of her going nut’s on me–I dont know her any more–we have a son who is allway’s in troubl;e as well–he is in jail right now for robbery—dont know him either not sure I want to any more–this is miserable—stuck in the mudd of life after kid’s and a wife who is lost some where else in another world!!!!!!!!!!