by Marilyn | submitted on October 3, 2008
I have mixed feelings about my children that don’t live at home. I am further out from that dark send off.
One is married, one is in grad school, and the other is working after graduating this January from college.
I just adore all of them. Memories are wonderful. Love being a mom.
I get sentimental and then can spin down. Mostly, I must tell you that it is great to have the peace and quiet. Our home was center people station.
Around the holidays, I want the ole traditions back because sometimes I don’t feel like inventing new ones.
I get excited to see my children and have time with them. Every time, the separation is a little anxious for me and a little sad.
I feel so connected with their stories and mine, the laughs, and pick up energy. Hugs good bye just aren’t happy moments.
Then, I get back into hearing me and not having to respond or adjust to a house full of children. You know they are really into themselves most of the time because of their ages.
Do you know what I mean? I actually like having my own mornings and evenings. I like my weekends of changing my mind or heading out the door and not checking the clock. I like being with me and of course other people’s company, but this emptying turned out to be a great time of my life.
I started taking classes, working out more, traveling, meeting new people, resting, reading, and the list goes on. Simple life, I know, but I like it.
Do any of you feel this way?
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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