OK, I will start with what I hear no one wants to talk about. Is this true for you?
“I want to do fun and new things, but I hate the driving at night. That makes me feel so old to say it. I sound fearful and lazy and that is not who I am.”
Not only do I hear this from empty nesters, but I too dread the night 405 freeway in traffic. When I really want to attend a fun event I actually have to cheer myself on to just do it. I try to beat the traffic and still I will have to do the night drive back. Truth is, I make it out to be worse than I imagine because of times it has been slow on the freeway and I am tired.
I won’t ever like night driving. I won’t want to sit home because I don’t like the drive. I go to the end result of sitting at home and the result of that feeling of fun and you got it, fun wins. So you know this. What you might not have none is you aren’t alone in hating night driving and it doesn’t mean you are getting old. It means you don’t like night driving. You will do it sometimes, anyhow. Actually realizing I don’t like driving an hour helped me decide to not volunteer if the drive is that far and they need me six hours a week. I found something closer to home even though at first, I really wanted to volunteer at that hospital with parents whose children were in the hospital for long stays.
So what don’t you want to talk about that you don’t like doing? Oh, I can add another…going to the dentist and still I go, but no longer every six months. I mean I really hate it so I take my IPOD and again cheer myself on by saying something like, just get it over with and then you can stop at the bookstore on the way back for a treat. Yes, at any age, I respond to treats.
What don’t you want to say that you don’t like doing? Post it here and brave up or email me, natalie@emptynestsupport.com
Take care,
Natalie
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