You think you can do and be it all for others during the holidays:
– Make scrumptious meals
– Decorate your home with sparkles and colors of beauty and aroma
– Add music and laughter
– Look dazzling and vibrant
– Light the fire and open the bar
– Spiffy the house in go green cleanliness
– Comfort and care for returning children
– Choose topics of conversation that won’t ruffle anyone’s feathers
– Make donations to the Food Drive
– Ask what everyone is grateful for in their life
– Set the tone of love and peace
You can probably add even more images and expectations for the holidays
I too am reminding myself to simply BE MYSELF and check in with ME… “How are you doing, what are you feeling and what do you need right now?” After all… if not now, WHEN……we are or most of us are, in our forties, fifties, sixties and isn’t it time to love who we are? Enjoy these gatherings no matter what we don’t have, can’t be, don’t want to be, or can’t make happen?
I know it isn’t easy to avoid the pop up voices in our head of how it was or should be …expectations. I am going to hope for awareness, give hugs, laugh, listen, and eat whatever yummy foods I desire (pumpkin pie and stuffing).
Happy Thanksgiving includes YOU.
Take care,
Natalie
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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