Hi everyone,
I am new to this online community. I feel safe already
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I regret I didn’t do more for myself when raising my family. I was the good wife, pleaser, loyal friend and daughter. I care take well and my children love that.
I am over it now. I worked but love of family was on my top list. Now they are happy and out of the house.
Time for me to look ahead. I don’t have a lot of friends like I use to. My family is gone. I am here.
I watch less TV so I don’t get the blues of not having the house decorated, parties, right clothes to wear, shop shop shopping and oh aren’t the holidays such a wonderful time for friends and family. For some, yes. No one wants to talk about the groups who don’t have all that inspiration and gathering.
I am moving ahead. I make lists of what I will do when I am ready, like a book club at the house.
I cry and then get over myself. I really have a good enough life. I can be happy so that is what I am wishing for. New life with a friend, passions, and surprises that make me laugh. I want to use the talents I have and keep healthy in my mind and body.
Sometimes I wait too long to give to myself so I wrote a note in my bathroom, “Give to Lindsey today.”
I have an anonymous mentor who is wonderful. I am not an alcoholic. I am a survivor of bad days. I really wish for all of you that you find someone to help you when the blues trap you.
Happy life forward,
Lindsey
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
I’m looking for strength. I have one son who is now 24. But hasn’t finished “finding his way yet” so he relies on both me and my husband. Recently, he decided he will finish his degree and is re-enrolling in January ’09 and will move into a shared house with a new roommate. Of course, we are still paying because WE WANT HIM TO FINISH and of course, to succeed! But I miss him already, even though he hasn’t left yet. He tells me the he wishes that I had other children to take his place, but I don’t. I had a lot of trouble getting pregnant for him and I don’t want to let go. I want to find something else that I can direct my desire to “do for him”, but I don’t know what. I really do want a dog, but my husband is not an animal person. Any suggestions?