I think most of us push ourselves too hard to do something when clarity hasn’t arrived.
Parents call me tearful that they can’t get over the emptiness. Who is rushing you?
Do you think if you float that might bring you something you didn’t even realize had value?
A mother, who now lives solo, since her children are married and she is divorced, was ready to explore what might be possible for her that would bring new meaning to her life.
Her mind chattered away daily at her to do something, snap out of it, get a life already.
It isn’t easy to change our habits of do do do . It isn’t easy to quiet the voice within that tells you that you aren’t doing enough or changing behaviors that you have wrestled with for years.
She did come to the place of feeling the beauty in simply floating with not knowing, not having any answers, yet. She struggled with this and stopped herself when the habitual chatter in her almost deafened her into exhaustion. One way she shifted into floating was to start her day and end her day differently.
She took her English breakfast tea for a morning walk. Mug in hand surrounded by red gloves and topped in a yellow hat, she walked for twenty minutes, sipping the warmth.
In the evening, she turned off the TV and read a mystery book, journaled and doodled in her writing pad. Music played and comforting soups adding the scent of home for her. She floats in her own beauty now of being enough and doing enough for now.
Beauty is in being. Clarity arrives when it arrives. Learn to trust you won’t be forgotten.
Take good care,
Natalie
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