Marriage, parents want that for their children. They want to like the new family, the partner, the town, the freedom. Now that is the head chatting about the upcoming wedding day , but the EMPTY NESTERS also want to sob, and quickly get over the change that leaves their home silent and old.
They have seen all the movies about weddings and starting over. They heard the stories and even toasted some of those parents at their children’s weddings. But for Kathy, she wanted her little girl’s room to be full of noise and messes and finally the cuddle under the blankets and the song she sings: nite-nite now nite-nite now even the cow goes nite-nite now.
I told her, “tell me your stories of what you love about Kathy . Big Kathy and Little Kathy. Here is my best Kleenex and a soft pillow for your tummy.”
Kathy is a great story teller. She was surprised what came to mind. The cupcakes that fell over on the way to school for her 7th BD party. The yellow dress with a white belt she wore coming down the steps to go to the school dance. The hair wrapped in a towel as she did her spelling homework.
The combination of milk duds and popcorn her little girl had to have at the movies. Sleep away camp where she got on the bus with the kids and came back two weeks later telling her to switch to CHEER to get her clothes whiter.
Stories connect you to your feelings and the appreciation of life.
Share your stories. Get someone to listen and go for the memories no matter how old you are or how long they have been away from their bedroom.
Take good care,
Natalie
natalie@emptynestsupport.com
Los Angeles, CA
818-763-0188
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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