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Why Now?

July 15, 2010 | by Natalie Caine | One Comment

I am an empty nest mother.

I was doing fine with my children being out of the house. I don’t know what triggered this loneliness and sadness.  One is married, the other is a sophomore in college, and one more is in grad school. 

I wonder if it is because I really haven’t found a deep new meaningful passion.  I want that so much.  I am busy and still not really connected it seems.  Connected to clarity.  I think about moving and downsizing.  I think about a trip, as the clock ticks in my age numbers.  I think about relatives I don’t see much and don’t even know if I want to see them.

Health is good.  Normal issues I think.  I am not really in love.  I want that too.  Who thought I would be wondering and feeling all this now.  I thought when I got free time I would enjoy it. Seems I don’t know how to do that very well.

Creature of habit gets in the way and the lack of vavoom.

I don’t think there is a check sheet about this life now. I don’t even want to live by a check sheet.  I don’t think enough people talk about it, either.

All the books and movies and groups were when we were raising our children.  I will live a long healthy life so I want to find that passion and meaning for life, again.  Is it normal to lose it and then find it? 

How do you deal with the funk for so long?  I am good at problem solving quickly. No quickly here.

Well thanks for letting me write to you.
A Woman Wondering

 

One Response

  1. Michelle says:

    I can relate to you! I’m still pondering what hobby I want to take up and how I want to “reinvent” myself. I’m glad I’m not alone in this! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. 🙂

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