A baby boomer, empty nester mother, so sweetly said to me, “I want to be
above the blues.” When I showed her this photo, she cried.
She talked about wanting to be held, nested in safety where she would be fine and her college son, with special needs, out there in the world without her arms, would be fine. She wanted to feel that sweet scent of a blooming flower that offers such hope. White makes her feel young, alive, and full of options.
As we continue to talk in our session, she remembered how she would climb her favorite tree and just sit there…looking, seeing things she couldn’t see from the ground.
She wants to be above the blues. She wants to be above and see out to the more of life. Who doesn’t want that perspective?
Isn’t she so articulate with her deep feelings even though she feels alone in them. Her guilt attacks her that there really isn’t a problem. She has a home, a life, a family, good health, friends, work.
Feelings are real.
Feelings don’t need reasons or comparisons. She is brave to feel and speak them. She forgot she gets to feel whatever feelings she is feeling without comparing herself to others or the world issues.
Her child has good support at college. She knows she has done the best she can. Still worry is normal. Changes for the entire family just happened.
Leap of trust, now. He will call if there is a problem. He will call when he is happy. She will find her new happy when she finds it. Today she has the blues and wants to be above.
What did you like to do when you were a child?
Where do you wish you could be when you have the blues?
Take good care,
Natalie
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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