I am divorced so right there you know the holidays bring some tears. My parents died last year and my children are coming home for a few days. Time for new beginnings and traditions. Sometimes I get so tired of being the leader of making beauty and setting the tone at home of appreciation and holiday spirits. I can’t tell them that. They are children. I am the adult who signed up for parenting. They help out. It is not that. It is that I want to have someone else inspire me. Just a cranky day today about parenting for so long and doing the holiday seasons.
I wouldn’t want to be without it. Going out of town or to restaurants isn’t the answer. I have just come to realize I need to do more fun for me and even ask for help more often.
I turn my down feelings around whenever I think about people who lost their children or can’t see them during the holidays or even people I love who have died. It does help.
Each year I say I will do less for holidays and this year I did. House looks great. Gifts are good and food is going to smell and taste great.
Sometimes I think, well, they might not be able to come next year so gear up and just enjoy each other. That helps me shift my dragging attitude.
Thanks for letting me write to you. What do others do to cope?
Merry Seasons of Joy and Health to you,
Andrea
Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org
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