Feeling stuck, that is what she shared with me. I just don’t know how to get my day going and be happy with all these changes I am now living. I don’t know what to do. My possible help is to remind you to try something. You get to change your mind. Now read on:
Three things I suggested that I continue to practice.
Ask yourself throughout the day:
1. What am I thinking about?
2. What am I feeling?
3. What do I need today?
The more you build a connection to yourself the more you get to know you and what matters to you.
It sounds so simple. It isn’t. We tell ourselves, “I don’t need to do that. I already know. It just doesn’t matter.”
The key is to ask yourself more than once throughout your day. Try for five times.
Get out the door and see something new. For some people, they need to start their unstructured day by getting out the door. For others, they like to meander into the day or get work done first. You can try a little of each or one and see how it feels that day.
I suggested to one woman that she get out the door and see what within walking distance interests her. She is so organized that she wanted to walk with paper and pencil. After a week, she came up with the idea, to stop in at three stores she liked and let them know she could help out once in a while. She left her email and phone number. Two weeks later, she got a call from a pet store, and filled in to hold the pets and spend time with them.
It is true for me, the gratitude awareness delivers happiness. I don’t write it, I say it. That is what works for me.
Find a mantra to remind you of the bigger picture, “this won’t last forever, it really won’t and it feels like forever that I am dealing with this. I can still do something for myself to feel better.”
A happy day, what is that for you?
1. Cooking
2. Hiking
3. Visiting people
4. Golfing
5. Working
6. Writing
7. Travel
8. Art at home
9. Reading
10. Dancing
11. The gym
12. TV and TiVo
13. Lunch with a friend
14. No physical aches
15. Energy up
16. Nothing to do today, yippee
17. Theater
18. Gardening
19. Talking on the phone
20. Photography
21. Biking
22. Yoga
23. Writing a letter to people you like
24. Shopping
25. Sitting in the park
26. Tennis
27. Feeling peaceful
28. Believing in you
29. Spiritual practices, what are yours?
30. What is a happy day for you?
31. Planning something
32. House guests
33. Voice lessons
34. Writing your memoir
35. History channel
36. Museum day
37. Organizing
38. Wine and cheese
39. Dinner out
40. Having someone plan a day and evening on the weekend.
41. Sports event
42. Concert
43. Soaking in warm water
44. Massage
45. Not answering the phone
46. New music for home
47. Sunsets
48. Skiing
What is a happy day for you? Is it a no worries chatter in your head? Is it a quiet mind? Is it being open and knowing when to close? Is it I LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU…….
You can inspire others by sharing what is a happy day for you? Lately, I love a surprise happy email, phone call, and delivery at the front door. What would you want delivered to your doorstep? Ok, you know who I am talking with here….we can’t deliver that … go get it…
Take good care,
Natalie
Natalie Caine M.A.
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