When people share their tears and laughs with me, there are times the topic is about what hasn’t happened at this stage of their life and they wish it had, and what they want to stop obsessing about that they don’t have. Who can’t relate to those thoughts?
With the end of summer, stories were shared about trips they couldn’t afford to take, kids leaving for college, again, marriages which weren’t theirs, downsizing and looking for a new home to buy with little inventory on the market, health challenges that limit their fun, not enough time to meander, unfulfilled jobs, lack of meaning, the list goes on .
Tips:
1. Write about your happiness. Yes, write what is working in your life that makes you happy. Write on your computer, paper, notes, whatever gives you a space to express.
2. Write about what didn’t come around and you so wanted it.
3. Share with someone you trust. Trust is a gift a friend gives you because you could really hurt them if you revealed what they asked you not to share with others.
4. Remind yourself grieving is expected. Let it unfold for you and not on an expectation time.
5. Schedule something nurturing for you: time in nature, music, massage, comfort food, spirit time, a good movie in bed, a friend to listen to you, an appreciation list of who you are no matter what, bath time with lavender and candles, a gift you buy yourself, a possible night in a hotel…
How are you at keeping a window open for what you long to receive and how are you for closing it when needed in order to empty and allow another vase to fill?
You might want to walk those questions as a way to learn more about who you are and who you are not at this time.
May gentleness and inspirations be with you,
Natalie
Natalie Caine M.A.
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