She called in tears. I have to do everything solo. I am good at it and that doesn’t matter. I have a problem. I give and accomplish and get acknowledged. I feel lonely. The joy of doing the job well doesn’t fill the sorrow. She continued. Friends call to support me and it is consistently
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Many share that line when they call for support as they are going through divorce, career shift, retiring, empty nest, illness, or finding new meaning. “I thought I was a grown up. I feel like an adolescent.” ” I had no idea I would stay in my stretch pants for days and flip the channels.
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Happy New Beginnings as we enter 2013. In our group we talked about exciting ideas each of has that includes both our inner and outer world. We shared what behaviors keep us going even when we naturally collapse. Each person wrote two ideas that will help them be kind to themselves no matter what
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Holidays are full of memories and gatherings. It is painful when you feel lonely and it seems the rest of the world is cheering and getting together. You feel left out and wonder “why aren’t I invited”? Each year I speak with people naturally weeping about how their life is honestly lonely during the holidays
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A woman shared with me that as she was rumbling through her holiday boxes to decorate, she found stacks of boxes. She opened them. Over and over she kept hearing herself ask, “Why did I save this concert ticket, these match boxes, this writing, those papers?” Long story short, what she found about herself is
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“The friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you.”Elbert Hubbard Memories rise up. People we have spent time with and those we no longer can see, come visiting in our minds and hearts. Memories are a good thing. We fear the tears, the loneliness, and we long for connections.
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When longing for a change, practice pausing, stepping back, and observing yourself and those you love. Some people say do what scares you. Some say ask for help. Others suggest go get inner and outer new resources. What would you put on your list to up your courage? What motivates you to want to
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During our Life in Transition group, we shared what we want to open to : 1. Less self-critical2. New friendships3. Weeping when we want to weep4. Saying thank you daily5. Allowing rather than making it always happen6. Letting go 7. Playing basketball with a neighborhood team8. Mentoring9. Increased trust10. Negotiating11. Not knowing and still being
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Parents and Non-parents were sharing stories with their families about voting and how they made the choices over the years. The bottom line is that they inspired their children and nieces and nephews to appreciate the freedom each of them has to be able to vote. Ask why, list pros and cons, research, trust
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Have you thought of getting a dog, traveling solo, shifting careers, saying goodbye to relationships, or beginning spiritual practices? Well, here is short story of a woman who called me wanting something different. A woman shared she wanted to do something totally different than wife, parent, professor, etc. What she led to was she wanted
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Our Life in Transition group gathered, as always to explore what was up for them and it was the subject of loneliness, sadness, illness, loss, and disappointments. It surprisingly had been a difficult time. I suggested they get in the car and follow me. I took the group on one of my favorite nature walks.
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When I was in Boston last week, I tried something new. While walking, and this sounds silly I know, I would stop and look up. People in windows, staircases, cranes, flashing tall lights, birds and squirrels , shoes, moon, stars, planes, lanterns, animals in the clouds. When I have the fun of taking photos,
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Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org