No one is happy every day all day long, so that is a relief for the part of you that likes perfection and fantasy. Acceptance is possible when you notice that the change you wanted in someone you love isn’t showing up. Here is what the people in our groups shared that boosted their happy:
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Life transitions, whether off to college or the spinning thoughts of, now what do I do with the impact of this news, raises sleeplessness and over eating. A single woman shared in our support group that she just can’t focus or stop thinking about her financial changes. Another younger woman is being pulled into
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A teacher shared with me years ago, “Confusion is great.” I frowned because that made no sense. Now it does. Confusion takes you out of routine and what you believe to be true. It is a choice to bring up courage and trust. You have heard me say it before, TRUST IS EARNED. You lose
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Holidays like Passover and Easter bring memories and gatherings. You know who at the table might punch your button because they don’t believe in you for whatever reason. Don’t you count yourself out for happiness and success. Leave the room for a pause, use humor, like “thanks for sharing,” use a more direct line, “you
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Women in my empty nest group hadn’t spent much time dreaming about fun and new possibilities. Some are still with children at home and some empty nesters now. We started a discussion called, THE NEXT BEST THING, meaning what we might do even if we can’t do THE BIG DREAM now. We had so
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The vote from my groups, that I share with you is, MAKE A PLAN. Some mothers shared they have a habit of waiting around to see if their children who are home from college will be free to do something with them. The wait made them feel resentful that they wasted their day. Their children
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Cherry blossoms open Spring. A client shared with me that Spring insures new possibilities, but what for her? She was sad because romance is invisible. As often as you hear it, solution of loss means tears, grieving for what is no longer with someone you loved. It is never predictable how long tears fall. She
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One of the top reasons people don’t move on a dream I hear from clients and during workshops is, “I can’t really do this alone. I get started and do well for about two weeks and then, if things aren’t going well, I collapse.” 1. Love2. Re-invention3. Healthy choices4. Spiritual practices5. Forgiving6. New friends7. Creativity8. De-clutter9. Moving10. Talking less and listening more11. Valuing yourself12. Getting a reality
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Some days are boring. You decide to get in your car. Not sure what you will do, you go to the familiar. I asked my groups where do they go to have a better day and what do they do: 1. Shopping for bargains2 Look at new cars on the market3. Garden shops4.
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What comes to your mind with the word unsatisfied? Work, relationships, sex, home, fun, sleep, spirituality, etc.? Good news about letting yourself feel unsatisfied is CHANGE. When the pain is more than the gain, do you make a shift? Do you put your voice in the room? A woman shared with me that she speaks
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Kara, asked me, as do other women, “I have habits that seem to run me. I am too predictable and at times, bored.” As you know, life is complex and we long for ease, like routine. Maybe a question is, “Are you happy?” We seem to forget that happiness is a real need and not
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Do you want the ending of the story or the beginning? Patience will give you the surprise ending that was greatly needed during loss. My cat, Sophie, who we adopted fourteen years ago, was still chatty and cuddly, until the Monday morning she suddenly died. I wept and wept. Home alone, I don’t know where
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Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org