Some days are boring. You decide to get in your car. Not sure what you will do, you go to the familiar. I asked my groups where do they go to have a better day and what do they do: 1. Shopping for bargains2 Look at new cars on the market3. Garden shops4.
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What comes to your mind with the word unsatisfied? Work, relationships, sex, home, fun, sleep, spirituality, etc.? Good news about letting yourself feel unsatisfied is CHANGE. When the pain is more than the gain, do you make a shift? Do you put your voice in the room? A woman shared with me that she speaks
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Kara, asked me, as do other women, “I have habits that seem to run me. I am too predictable and at times, bored.” As you know, life is complex and we long for ease, like routine. Maybe a question is, “Are you happy?” We seem to forget that happiness is a real need and not
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Do you want the ending of the story or the beginning? Patience will give you the surprise ending that was greatly needed during loss. My cat, Sophie, who we adopted fourteen years ago, was still chatty and cuddly, until the Monday morning she suddenly died. I wept and wept. Home alone, I don’t know where
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A parent called sharing she was waiting for her twins to be ecstatic from the long anticipated acceptance letters to college. She worried there would be tears with rejection letters, no choices. What parent wouldn’t want their children to get what they want? Changes can bring brightness, dullness, or shades of grey, usually the latter.
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Valentine’s Day is a day people have strong feelings of like or dislike. Pressure, phony, commercial, loss, hiding, and celebrations of kisses. A woman called my office and shared,” I have no lover today. I do have his love letters. We were never live in partners. We were in love. I treasure those sweet words
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If you were to drum out a song for those you love, what words would you hope to convey? If you were to make a heart card, what would you draw in and outside theheart? If you danced love, how brave would you have to be? No matter what way you choose to express, hope
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What do you know about love? That is the question I posed to my ongoing fabulous support group. They gave themselves about fifteen minutes to write. You can imagine the joy and tears that filled the living room. Colored pastels were also on the table if they felt like doodling or drawing rather than words
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Parents packed up their college kids, again, and said goodbye, after a great winter break together. Our support group shared that even though they have done this before, tears still fell. Some said they held back tears, while others just didn’t want to stop the sudden drop. All were grateful to be sitting together, sharing
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I said I would use lotion during the dry winter and I didn’t. I did say out loud what really matters to me this year of 2012. I did write a list of my strengths and challenges. I wrote who I am grateful for and who I am no longer interested in, which sounds
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If you don’t call on the holidays, you don’t get the love. A mom shared with me that she makes too many excuses for her kids not calling during the holidays. They are busy. They are kids who of course forget. Do you make excuses for your kids during the holidays? One year she called
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When do mothers stop directing, by the judging eye or words, about what their children are wearing? “Put on some lipstick, you look pale. Your shoes are filthy. Don’t you have an iron? You can’t wear jeans to Aunt Kelly’s.” What words have you heard about how you dress during holiday gatherings?Is it a dress
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Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org