No matter how old you are or what the change is, honestly, you can’t fully prepare. You can comfort yourself. Self-talk, items checked off your list, and a reminder that you can get help. What is the worst that can happen AND what is the best? You forget to ask both. Remember your past
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It’s not about the kids. It’s me. I thought my life would be different now. I thought I would have a partner that wanted to be fun. Those are the words a woman shared with me and said I could share here. Have you had that voice in your head? She knew all about
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What is on your dream list? What small step can you take to move forward? When I decided to explore selling our home, my small step was to interview realtors. I let them know I only had twenty to thirty minutes and this time together was simply an exploration. I wanted to know their marketing
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I had an experience out of town, 3000 miles from home. I was on work and fun time. When I came back home, the impact from those six days, gave me a new idea. I made a call, then another and then a final. Three interviews. I stayed curious with each person. Decision happened. I
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Whether kids come back home, or you have no children, boomers don’t want to be invisible. They want to feel that their life learning’s will be of VALUE. Talking with boomers across the country, I have not heard one say that they want to do nothing forever. The opposite is true for them. They know
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Sitting in a circle with our women’s group, one of the things I suggested we do was to give each other a massage. “I know nothing about massage, one woman shared, except to get them for myself.” Being a beginner is full of surprises, I replied.” Let your partner know what kind of touch
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Holidays, traditions, people around the table and those who are no longer here, reflect that change happens. How do you cope? Over and over, what seems to help is to be with whatever you are thinking and feeling. In our groups we practice knowing when to say stop, enough spinning the story and when
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When my daughter went 3,000 miles away to college, I felt a spread of feelings. Happy for her, excited that I, her mother was a part of her journey up to this door and empty from a role I loved and knew was shifting. I had a career, husband, friends, family, and lovely home. I
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Who is minding the store when you are stuck? Is it the inner pusher, the critic, the perfectionist, the bully, the little one, or a combination? Well, you know what I mean. In our support groups and private sessions, we shared what it is like being STUCK. Losses come up, dreams died and won’t
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What to do when you have no Valentine THIS YEAR? We asked that question and here are some answers: 1. Treat yourself to something you wish someone would buy you.2. Dance with the music loud.3. Go to a group class that night.4. Make a list of what YOU LOVE about YOURSELF.5. Make cards and give
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February, and our women’s group decided to write, photograph, draw, cut out pictures from magazines, garden a day, bake, doodle, or any creative idea that would focus on love. People call in tears that they want February 14 to be off the calendar when they are solo or in the emptiness of a quiet house.
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When Molly shared her story, I wept. The short of it is this. She was headed to her dream job that landed without years of struggle. She fell. Not outside but within herself. She felt, not good enough, for this newness. She said she wasn’t going. She didn’t. She allowed me to share although that
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Natalie Caine, M.A. natalie@lifeintransition.org